In Defense of Chivalry
What is a gentleman? Is it Chauvinistic in nature? I suppose chivalry could come out of a chauvinistic mind-set but most times this isn’t the case. Originally it meant a man who owned property. Today it is a man who is well-mannered (manor-ed? I couldn’t resist). Well what should a man who wants to be polite do?
- Get the door for everyone. Usually it doesn’t take much time and it shows deference.
- When going down the stairs, go in front of the ladies, when going up the stairs be behind them, so you can catch them or at least break their fall.
- Stand up when a woman comes to join you to eat or sit at a table. Trust me, she’ll be surprised and pleased.
- Walk closer to moving traffic. That when if it hits one of you, it’s probably you.
- On a bridge, closer to the water unless there’s moving traffic. Then ask her preference.
- Offer to pay, be willing not to.
- Be careful of language.
These apply to almost all situations with people besides your girl. If you’re doing it just to win points with one girl; you’re a tool. A man isn’t only a gentlemen in his treatment of the opposite gender, he’s a gentlemen all of the time. Regardless of whether you have a girl or not, always be chivalrous. For one thing, girls seem to notice EVERYthing.
Ladies, if your man is trying to be a gentleman, let him. Nothing is more disheartening than trying to get the door for a girl and getting a lecture. Really he probably has a good heart.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
- Day (171) – A Gentleman (thebettermanprojects.wordpress.com)
- Let us be Chivalrous: From a Man’s Perspective (funfemininefaithful.wordpress.com)
- Sir Bros-alot (spaghettiosandstilettos.wordpress.com)
- Waiting For Chivalry To Grab Him By The Ear (blurtblog.net)